We all remember that moment when we break up with someone we love and consumed with so much pain and disappointment, swear not to fall in love again. It is normal to feel this way as we feel vulnerable and want to protect ourselves. It is a fear-based reaction, a survival instinct, a way to cope with the feelings of abandonment, insecurity, despair and disappointment that we all have experienced one way or another in our lives.
But we always have a choice, to cover it all up, run away and forget about the experience, or to look deep inside, taking responsibility for the experience we co-created and make the best out of it.
If we go for the first option which feels like the easiest way out of our misery, life will take care of it and will keep bringing the same story over and over until we have no choice and at some point go for choice number two and decide to overcome it and learn from it.
True healing only happens when we open our hearts again to forgive ourselves, forgive the wonderful teacher whom served as our mirror and decide to take better care of ourselves, respect, nurture and accept who we are, with our qualities and defects. It is only when we truly overstep the drama story we created and understand that it was just one more story, one more experience, one more chapter of our book called the story of my life.
Always choose love over fear. Love is expanding, love calls for new adventures, new experiences to enrich your existence. Love keeps you alive and vibrant, unfortunately the problem here is that we attach to the subject of our love and believe that our love has two legs and can run away out of the door and we will feel empty and incomplete again. This is a fear-based believe that needs to be removed once and for all.
Love is free, has no boundaries, therefore; does not belong to anything or anyone external from us. Love is born and is nurtured inside our hearts, we are the creators of such energy but we forget that comes from the deepest core of our being.
The pain and suffering that comes from separating from somebody we love comes from our attachment to the person and our false believe that he/she is the owner of that love. Do yourself and him/her a favor and free your lover from that burden.
Always remember that the love you create is only yours and yours to share, the more you share, the more it grows, the more magic you can create in your life, miracles will happen. Stop believing that you are incomplete without the subject of your love, because love must come first, and then the subject will come second.
By Peaceful Warrior
About the Author
Badass Yoga Rebel, otherwise known as Corinne Voermans, founder of Happy Buddha Aruba writes about all sorts of topics but primarily about how to maintain a healthy relationship with yourself and others based upon her own life experiences and challenges. With the help of many co-authors its her mission to help and support others going through rough times. May there be light at the end of the stairway to heaven. Realise that before we get there you're going to sweat. The steps can be filled with obstacles. You could fall a couple times by taking a misstep but in the end its about the climb and reaching the top. Don't be scared, you're not alone, others will help you move on so be fearless through the struggles of life for it's the only way of becoming your true authentic self. Namaste